“Boys are advised that if a girl says ‘no’, go ahead, press on, and again to girls: don’t mislead, be nice and above all don’t make a scene,” says modern self-defense lecturer Jasmína Houdek about the Easter tradition of whipping with a whip. According to her, the custom is fine if all parties agree on it. But how to refuse him? And how should women defend themselves in other situations when they don’t feel safe?
You can watch the entire interview in the introductory video or listen to it in your favorite podcast app. What were its main themes?
0:37 – 3:30 According to Jasmína Houdek, does pomázka belong in today’s society? Under what conditions is this tradition acceptable and when is it over?
3:30 – 7:05 How to reject this, for many people, unpleasant tradition and set boundaries? When can an originally innocent ritual become sexualized violence?
7:05 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. The tradition can be uncomfortable for both women and men, who often feel pressured by their surroundings to participate, even if it’s embarrassing for them. How to communicate your feelings between family and friends?
11:00 – 17:15 About what role the moment of freezing plays in sexualized violence and why it is an important argument in the redefinition of rape today. According to Houdek, what is the best way to react to unpleasant situations in public?
17:15 – 20:25 About the fact that, in self-defense, it is important to master not only physical defense but also mental defense.
20:25 – 24:07 Does Jasmína Houdek succeed in convincing people who downplay sexualized violence? What steps must we take as a society to shift its perception?
